Black Woman’s Open Letter To Men Who Fetishise Skin Colour Is Spot On

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A black woman has written an open letter to demand men stop trying to “tick having sex with a black woman off their bucket list” –  as she claims they “fetishise” her race.

Filomena Kaguako joined Plenty of Fish to find “something serious” but has now been forced to delete the app after discovering that the majority of men had other intentions.

The 27-year-old claims the majority of men commented on her race within five minutes of speaking to her and that they “unjustly exotified” her body because it was black, which they saw as “new”.

The blogger and businesswoman claims Irish men especially “fetishise” black women because interracial relationships are not as common in Ireland as they are elsewhere and hopes the open letter and video she’s shared on social media will educate them.


Kaguako, from Drogheda, Ireland, said: “I have been in Ireland for 18 years and I’ve been trying to find men who don’t look at me and just see the fact I’m black. I want them to look at me as a whole person.

“I’ve noticed that Irish men fetishise black women. I think this is because in Ireland interracial relationships aren’t as common as other places.

“You would think we could be a bit more progressive.

“If you go to London or New York, it’s really common to see people of different races coming together.

“I shouldn’t really be making excuses for it as a societal problem. It’s not acceptable.”


She added: “Some of my friends have suggested it’s because [sex with a black woman is seen as] new that they’re interested. That’s why they are approaching me.

“It’s about being looked at [as a black woman] as just a statistic or something to tick off the bucket list.”

Kaguako felt compelled to take to social media for her rant after becoming tired of men mentioning her race within minutes of chatting to her online.

Now, she has even created a video to help men avoid offending black women while dating entitled ‘five things Irish guys should never say to a black girl on Tinder’.

Her open letter reads:

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